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It’s no longer chicken soup for the soul ladies and gents…

It’s raspberry cheesecake and chilli chocolate muffins.

Not to out do Martha Stewart… after a day of boredom… i decided to bake… bake… and bake. Not great when you’re on a “diet”… I need to lose boob and tummy weight… even though everyone says I don’t need to (especially the boob section) but I suppose I just made that a but harder… in any case… I got a message from a friend a few days ago… asking how I was and if I wanted to meet up (in Toulouse) next week… But to be honest, I don’t know if I should. I mean, (and I am still confused about this part) after I left Stockholm, I got back to uni… and everything had changed. My guy friends just… “dropped” me. Why? I have… no idea… this guy (who I really liked… as a friend… and may I say… he tried to sleep with me a fair few times… not that THAT was going to happen) just decided… he didn’t want to be friends anymore… well to be more correct when after 3 months I still hadn’t gone for a drink with him, I asked him straight out why we had not seen each other… and he said “I don’t have the same desire to see as I did before”. Now, to be brutal… I was floored. We had never been uber close… but close enough to know each other pretty well…

So what did I do?

I got up, and made myself some new friends! Partied like a crazy person, worked hard and got over it.

So… why do I suddenly get this… request to “meet up for a drink it’s been ages”…? I have no idea… argh. Even I can’t try and psychoanalyse this shit. So I am going to have a slice of cheesecake, and a giant glass of wine… or diet coke… whatever I can get my hands on first.

If you want the recipes… here we go (at least something positive can come out of it) :

Baked Raspberry Cheesecake 


  • 8 digestive biscuits
  • 50g butter , melted
  • 600g cream cheese
  • 2 tbsp plain flour
  • 175g caster sugar
  • Vanilla extract
  • 2 eggs, plus 1 yolk
  • 142ml pot soured cream
  • 300g raspberries 
  • icing sugar


  1. Heat the oven to 180C/fan 160C/gas 4. Crush 8 digestive biscuits in a food processor (or put in a plastic bag and bash with a rolling pin). Mix with 50g melted butter. Press into a 20cm springform tin and bake for 5 minutes, then cool.
  2. Beat 600g cream cheese with 2 tbsp flour, 175g caster sugar, a few drops of vanilla extract, 2 eggs, 1 yolk and a 142ml pot of soured cream until light and fluffy. Stir in 150g raspberries and pour into the tin. Bake for 40 minutes and then check, it should be set but slightly wobbly in the centre. Leave in the tin to cool.
  3. Using the remaining 150g raspberries, keep a few for the top and put the rest in a pan with 1 tbsp icing sugar. Heat until juicy and then squash with a fork. Push through a sieve. Serve the cheesecake with the raspberry sauce and raspberries.

Dark Chocolate and Chilli Cupcakes


  • Chocolate cupcakes :
  • 175g (6 oz) unsalted butter, softened
  • 140g (5 oz) light muscovado sugar
  • 2 large eggs, beaten
  • 2 tablespoons golden syrup
  • 225g (8 oz) self-raising flour
  • 115g (4 oz) dark chocolate, melted
  • 1 or 2 red chillies, deseeded and very finely chopped
  • Chocolate frosting :
  • 175g (6 oz) dark chocolate (above 70% cocoa solids)
  • 2 tablespoons dark muscovado sugar
  • 150ml soured cream
  • To decorate :
  • Red and green coloured marzipan
  • Red sugar sprinkles


1. Preheat the oven to 180ºC/350ºF/gas mark 4. Line a 12-cup muffin tray with paper cases.
2. Beat the butter and sugar together until creamy. Gradually mix in the eggs and stir in the golden syrup, flour, melted chocolate and chopped chillies.
3. Spoon into the paper cases and bake for 20 minutes or until just firm to the touch. Cool in the tin for 10 minutes before removing to a wire rack to cool completely.
4. To make the chocolate icing: chop or break the chocolate into small pieces and melt in a bowl placed over a pan of steaming water, stirring until smooth. Remove the bowl to the work surface and beat in the sugar until dissolved, followed by the sour cream.
5. Spread the frosting over the cupcakes and decorate with chillies, or hearts moulded from coloured marzipan or sugar paste icing. Scatter over red sugar sprinkles.

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Fuck Buddies & the Art of Seduction


I wasn’t exactly sure how to start this post but I suppose that I’ll start from a more general view to a more precise one. It may seem like a rather selfish or at least narcissistic post BUT we have to inspire ourselves from somewhere, and my life seems to be pretty eclectic. So I’m starting from there.

I’m single, and while I may be perceive as “alone”, I am in fact not. Millions… no tens and thousands of millions of the world’s population is single. So if I were to be pedantic, being single isn’t such a lonely place to be right now! Now, with all that optimism out of the way, let’s go full steam ahead to the sad and rather depressing truth (unless it’s not and then I apologise).

Sex. Sex. Sex. Makes the world  go round. Yep. It’s true. Sex is literally everywhere. It’s in your magazines, tv’s and in the street. Sex is used to sell absolutely anything. As they say in the business, “Sex sells”. Now, I’m no angel, for the people who know me, sex is something I talk about, know about… and shock horror… have done! I think we have all surpassed the age where sex is this “big deal”… and yet it still occupies our every thought (apparently). Now I can understand that those having regular sex don’t miss it… and I can obviously relate to those not having it and wishing they were… but I have a nagging question.

Is anonymous sex that great? Really?

As a test, I signed myself up on an online dating site. Now, I am not a journalist (yet?!) but I believe that through all good journalism, you have to put your money where your mouth is. So I have (and a lot of online time too I might add!). I put up a recent photo… described myself accurately (to the best of my ability of course) and waited. Now, I wasn’t looking for a date/hook-up/boyfriend etc. So I thought it was only fair to wait for the guys to come to me. Like a horse to water so to speak. And, come they did! I can say for someone who doesn’t have great self appreciation, that it was an incredible pick me up! I received in the space of a month about… 117 emails… all asking for me! BUT, may I add a few interesting issues came up as well.

While many were very respectful, with mails which to summarize said “Hello my name is _________ .  I think you are ___________ . Would you like to swap emails and talk?/Would you like to talk something? etc” Many were also very much different. I did get one email saying that I was “not attractive”… but I’m going to say that he was absolutely hideous… and 45 years old (so I think he should know better than insult a 22 year old girl! It seems sad to be honest). In any case, as well as the nice and pleasant I was surprised to get a fair few emails from let’s say an “older generation” of men, and ladies and gentlemen… I am not talking about the 35 year old guy who’s still single and a bit bored on a friday night… I am in fact talking about over 45 year old (mostly really unattractive) men. I’m not saying middle-aged men are unattractive… don’t get me wrong! I do like the older man from time to time (cf : apple guy (those of view who know me well may know what I’m talking about)) but these guys were… total sleaze balls. Today I got from a long haired, ugly 45 year old man with 2 children an email saying the following (I have edited) :

“I am looking for a not too ugly girl for the evening and more if I like you. Interested? Kisses. ______ .”

Seriously? This is insane! It’s basically prostitution, and what baffles me… is that he thinks I could actually be interested. I may not be any sex bomb à la Marilyn Monroe… but I definitely am NOT some anorexic spotty crack whore! Argh I shudder at the thought of this man caressing anything but his own arm! Argh! And this guy is not alone! If I look back at the messaged I have received… I noticed that many… and many ask for what can only be fuck buddies. For those of you not familiar with this “modern” term… I have enlisted the help of the internet based dictionary fashionable with many the young pubescent teen… “Urban Dictionary”. Here is what they have to say on the subject :


Urban Dictionary

I have only given the first two definitions, but I think they suffice.

Now, for those who know me, like I have said previously… I’m not a foreigner to the concept. We have all done it at least once in our lives, but the point I am trying to make… is why is it literally everywhere now? There seems to be more people looking for fuck buddies now that actual meaningful relationships. I’m not a giant romantic. I am not a fan of soppy poetry and being serenaded. Trust me. But come on, who doesn’t want a hug and a kiss when you get back from work? Who doesn’t want to know that they are cared and loved? I mean sure… carnal pleasure is good… no scrap that… sex is great. But, without being corny… sex really is better when you “love/care/enjoy being with” that person. I wish there was less sex and more… sex and love going on.

Anyway, “the art of seduction”. Where has is gone anyway? I mean… seriously… let’s say I was hypothetically looking for an easy fuck… do you think emailing me (or coming up to me in a bar) an telling me something around the lines of “Hey babe, I like yo ass, I like yo body… so you wanna dance horizontally”, is going to get you in my pants?

I’m not suggesting in anyway that being romantic and lying is better… I just think there’s a better way IF that is what you want. I mean, no one meets the love of their life in a bar wearing a low cut top and 6 inch heels… but you don’t either by saying lines like that! All I am looking forward to, is when people asked you out on dates. People are so starved for a smidgen of romance that nowadays telling a woman her “ass is out of this world” is going to work! How depressing is that? I want a guy to tell me he thinks I’m beautiful, that I’m a bright young woman and that yes, he would like to bump uglies in the future with me… but that he would like to take me out for coffee/dinner/a movie first.  Am I asking for a lot?

No? I didn’t think so. We are worth so much more. Maybe we have lowered our standards… or maybe I’m just too old school…

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Sex, Sex, Sex… and Being a Whore?



After hearing a fair few comments from other people on other people I thought I’d write this post.

No I’m of the female persuasion… so I am not going to lie. I do enjoy a good gossip… and I’m known for loving to hear about. But after that there is the unspoken rule that you do not pass it on. Gossip is like admitting you enjoy eating at McDonalds : you know you shouldn’t like it but you do. But with good gossip comes great responsibilities. In other words, you better to learn to shut the fuck up. No one likes a loud mouth, and no one (and i mean it) likes to be talked about. Now true, I’m a talker. I love to talk… but I generally don’t talk smack about someone unless I am exceedingly angry or don’t give a rats ass what they think of me.

What I mean to say is this. Gossip is ok, it’s fun, it’s a cheap joke. Just hush about it!

Now this is where my point lies. Sex (again). It always comes down to this (well as well as sleeping, eating and excreting that it). People LOVE to talk about it and we have a numerous programmes, magazines, movies, tv channels etc devoted to it. It’s a free exercise and most people enjoy it and without going into the sordid details… people do it. We can thank the sixties for “free love” and various different contraceptives… but also the fact that men and women could more or less have any sexual freedom they wanted! Woo hoo! Goodbye sexual oppression! (Well not totally but that’s another subject!).

Somehow I feel as though we have slightly regressed these past years. Women are being criticized for being “free spirits” and sleeping around. I don’t get it. Well that’s a lie I do get it and it is not the stereotype that men can sleep around and be called a “stud” and women do it and they become a “whore”. It does not come down to that. It comes down to one thing in my opinion.

It’s ok to sleep around. We are more or less hedonists… the difference with a girl/guy who is perceived as a whore (or man slut) is one who can’t keep their mouth shut. I believe that women should stay women, in the sense that yes you should seize your sexual power and sleep with whoever you want. But stay a women, and be coy about it. No one wants to date a whore… and sometimes a virgin can scare away a guy. So what does a girl have to do nowadays? Well… have sex and with whoever you want dammit! But don’t tell everyone. The reason why the “Sex and the City” gals were not seen as whores because they talked about it in a small circle of close knit friends. None of they guys they slept with thought for one moment that they were “dainty little virgins” but they didn’t want to sleep with a woman who had slept with the whole neighborhood.

So I don’t think you (or I) should feel bad about sleeping with someone because you are scared or what people think. I have friends who I trust and they and only they should know about my personnel life. If you wish to share who you are sleeping with and how many… then so be it! But you must brave the consequences! We are free (at least in most European countries) to do nearly what we want (as long as it doesn’t infringe on someone else’s freedom!) but whatever we say, we still care what people think.

Carpe Diem! Seize the day! Do what you want but think of the consequences (but only if you care!)


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It’s Nearly Halloween…

Here are some tasty and very Halloween themed recipes… easy to make and absolutely yummy! Now… get cooking!

Awesome Halloween Cupcakes!

Ohhhhh Spooky!


For the cupcakes

  • 250 g unsalted butter, softened
  • 250 g caster sugar
  • 250 g self-raising flour
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 4 eggs
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract

For the icing

  • 220 g unsalted butter
  • 400 g icing sugar
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • writing icing
  • assorted halloween sweets, to decorate


1. Preheat the oven to 175C.

2. Line muffin trays with 18 cupcake papers.

3. For the cupcakes:Place all the cupcake ingredients into a mixing bowl and beat with a mixer until pale and fluffy (2-3 minutes).

4. Distribute the mixture between the cupcake papers.

5. Bake for 20 minutes until golden brown.

6. Remove and allow to cool for 5 minutes in the tins, before cooling completely on a wire rack. Once cold you can prepare the icing.

7. For the icing: Cream the butter, sugar and vanilla in a medium bowl.

6. Separate the icing into several smaller bowls and add a couple of drops of food colouring to each to make different coloured icing.

7. Smear the icing onto the cooled cupcakes. Decorate with writing icing and Halloween sweets of your choice.

Hot mulled Cider Wine!

Ahhhhhh tasty!


  • 100 g brown sugar
  • 1 pinches salt
  • 2 litres cider
  • 1 tsp ground allspice
  • 1 tsp whole cloves
  • 1 pinches nutmeg
  • 2 oranges, peel only, cut into segments
  • 6 cm cinnamon sticks
  • 50 g blanched flaked almonds, lightly toasted


1. Combine the sugar and salt, and add to the cider in a large saucepan.

2. Tie the spices in cheesecloth and add to the cider. Slowly bring to the boil. Cover and simmer for 20 minutes.

3. Remove the spices and add the orange peel, cinnamon stick and toasted almonds before serving in a punch bowl.

Hot Delicious Punch!



  • 1 glasses apple juice
  • 1 glasses orange juice
  • 1 glasses cranberry juice
  • 2 cm ginger, peeled and chopped
  • 2 cinnamon sticks
  • 2 star anise
  • 2 cloves


1. Put all the ingredients into a pan and bring to just below boiling. Simmer for at least 15 – 20 minutes to let the flavours infuse. Sweeten with a little sugar if needed.

2. Strain into mugs and serve, with a warning that it is very hot!

Toffee Apples

Toffee Apples!


For the toffee coating

  • 225 g demerara sugar
  • 110 ml water
  • 0.5 tsp vinegar
  • 2 tbsp golden syrup
  • 25 g butter

For the apples

  • 6 apples
  • 6 wooden skewers, for holding the apples


1. Dissolve the sugar in the water over a moderate heat. When it has dissolved, stir in the vinegar, syrup and butter. Bring to a boil and cook without stirring until it reaches hard-crack stage (138C) or hardens into a ball when dropped in a jug of cold water. This should take around 10 minutes boiling time.

2. While the syrup is cooking, pierce each apple with a wooden stick. Once the toffee is ready, dip each apple into the hot toffee, turning it around in the syrup so that each one is fully coated.

3. Leave to harden on a lightly oiled tray before serving. If you’re planning to keep them for a day or two, wrap the apples in cellophane.

Spicy Pumpkin and Coconut Soup



  • 4 stalks of lemongrass
  • 6 thai lime leaves
  • 2 x 50mm ginger, peeled
  • 2 clove garlic, peeled
  • 6 red chillies
  • juice of 2 limes
  • black pepper
  • 500 g pumpkin, peeled and chopped
  • sea salt
  • 2 tbsp vegetable oil
  • 2 banana shallots, finely chopped
  • 5 g cumin seeds
  • 600 ml vegetable stock
  • 400 ml tin coconut milk
  • sprigs coriander, to garnish
  • 1 cucumber, chopped & deseeded
  • sprigs mint, to garnish

For the rice balls:

  • 500 g thai rice, cooked
  • 125 g roasted peanuts, crushed
  • small bunch coriander, finely chopped
  • black pepper
  • vegetable oil, for deep-frying


1. Preheat the oven to 200ºC/Gas 6.

2. Peel the outer coating from the lemon grass stalks and finely chop the white bulbous part of the stalks, discarding the rest. Remove the tough central veins from the kaffir lime leaves.

3. In a food processor blend together the lemon grass, kaffir lime leaves, ginger, garlic, chillies and lime juice into a smooth paste. Season with salt and freshly ground pepper.

4. Place the chopped pumpkin in an roasting tray, sprinkle with sea salt and toss with 1 tbsp oil. Roast the pumpkin for 35 minutes until softened.

5. While the pumpkin is roasting make the rice balls. In a food processor pulse-blend half of the cooked rice into a paste. Mix together the rice paste, remaining rice, remaining lemon grass paste, peanuts and chopped coriander. Season with salt and freshly ground pepper.

6. Shape the rice mixture into 25mm balls.

7. Heat the oil for deep-frying in a deep fat-fryer or wok. Once the oil is very hot fry the rice balls in batches until golden-brown, remove with a slotted spoon, drain on kitchen paper and set aside to keep warm.

8. To make the soup heat 1 tbsp oil in a heavy-based saucepan. Gently fry the shallots and cumin seeds for 3-5 minutes, then add in half the paste and fry, stirring often, for 5 minutes until fragrant.

9. Add the roast pumpkin to the pan, mixing well, and fry for 2 minutes.

10. Pour in the stock and bring to the boil. Reduce the heat and simmer for 7-8 minutes.

11. Blend together the pumpkin mixture and the coconut milk until smooth. Gently reheat the soup.

12. To serve, ladle the soup into serving bowls and sprinkle with coriander sprigs, chopped cucumber and mint sprigs and serve with rice balls.

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Delicious Chickpea & Potato Curry

Yummy in my Tummy Curry!

For those who are on a budget, a vegetable curry is a very good solution. This one is a very tasty version of the recipe. You don’t have to put the sugar in it if you don’t want to. Serve with chopped fresh coriander and Indian breads. Enjoy!


  • 4 cloves garlic
  • 2 chillies
  • 5 cm piece ginger
  • olive oil, for frying
  • 1 large red onion, finely chopped
  • 1 tsp cumin seeds
  • 1/2 tsp ground cinnamon
  • 1 tbsp tomato purée
  • g canned chopped tomatoes
  • 1/2 tsp turmeric
  • 1 tbsp chopped fenugreek leaves, optional (see Cook’s note below)
  • pinches sugar, or to taste
  • 440 g can chickpeas, drained
  • 1 large potato, cut into eighths
  • 600 ml water
  • 1/2 lime, juice only
  • chopped coriander, to serve


1. Using a mini-food processor or a mortar and pestle, grind the garlic, chillies and ginger into a paste.

2. Heat a little olive oil in a heavy-based saucepan and fry the onions and cumin seed until golden. Stir in the garlic paste and cinnamon and fry briefly until the spices become fragrant.

3. Add the tomato purée, tomatoes, turmeric, fenugreek and sugar, and season to taste with salt. Cook this mixture until the tomatoes have broken down and the sauce is reduced

4. Stir in the drained chickpeas and potatoes and pour over the water. Cover the dish and simmer until the potatoes are tender. Stir in the lime juice.

5. Cook until the potatoes are cooked through. Serve with the chopped coriander.

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